1. Change your self image.
“The person we believe ourselves to be will always act in a manner consistent with our self-image.” “We will always tend to fulfill our own expectation of ourselves.” “Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” You will often stop yourself from doing stuff that “just isn’t you”. But when that stuff is the new normal, the stuff you just do because you are you then it becomes a lot easier. How can you change your own self image? Here’s what I used to see myself as a fit and healthy person rather than a person who dabbles in such stuff occasionally:
2. Create helpful habits. “Successful people are simply those with successful habits.” Pretty simple. Our habits are what we tend to do consistently in our day to day life and so they control our success – or lack of it – very much. What are successful habits? Some you can find in this article. A few others are:
“Whatever you dwell on in the conscious grows in your experience.” “The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we fear.” This is very important and something I think many people don’t grasp the full extent of. I certainly didn’t before. When your focus is split, when you fill your mind just the “normal amount” of negativity or dwell on for example mistakes you are using up valuable time, energy and available focus to pull yourself backwards and to make mountains out of molehills. Problems seem to become bigger in your mind than they actually are when you dwell on them. But so does, for example, opportunities and gratitude. Your surrounding reality is huge. And the room for interpretations of that reality is wide. What you focus is what you will see in your reality (opportunities vs. more reasons why things suck). What you dwell on becomes bigger and bigger in your mind. And what you think about is what you will act upon. That’s basically why it’s absolutely crucial to keep your focus and your thoughts in right place and on the positive and useful things in your life as consistently as you can. If you focus on the negative and irrelevant stuff it is quite likely that you never get all those most important things done. 4. Set clear goals. And write them down. “People with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine.” To be able to focus consistently on what you want you can use goals. If you use them, write down so they transform from thoughts into something physical and real. You can use that piece of paper as a reminder – posted on a wall for example – later on to keep your focus in the right place each and every day. 5. Ask yourself helpful questions. “After every difficulty, ask yourself two questions: “What did I do right?” and “What would I do differently?” The questions you ask yourself in life determine much of your outlook and success. If you ask disempowering questions like “what sucks about this?” in any situation then you are creating a lot of unhappiness and victim thinking. If you on the other hand keep it on a useful and empowering level with questions like the ones from Tracy then your chances of succeeding goes up.
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